Why is it difficult?

I live in bhopal, which is the heart of conservative India. This is in terms of societal behaviour that certain people have towards another people. To establish friendship with everybody is almost the ultimate challenge here. The individuals here have a preconcieved mindset of suspicion, if friendship is established here. Gossip, scandal and morality thrive in places like this. It is in this backdrop where understanding and friendship take a backstep.

One really fails to understand this concept. If friendship is considered a universally good thing, why is it in conservativeness that the same thing is sinful? Things which are viewed with a narrow mindset is the main reason why people view others with suspicion. It has been proven that back talking and gossip are all because of an unstable and unsatisfactory mind. Why is the mind so unstable in conservativeness? Is it because of the fact that in Conservative societies, Morality is considered the benchmark of a character?

Perhaps, this could be true. Morality mixed with a narrow mindset makes Conservative societies hard to live. The fact highlighted here is that societies which view everybody through a moral framework will never develop. People cannot be expressive with their ideas, nor be confident individuals. The realities of a more open and understanding world will be too much for them to take. These scenarios lead to the situation of extremes for the individual, and thus stagnates his development.

I go back again to the point that Morality should be flexible in dealing with certain aspects of life. Morality and narrow mindedness should not come at least in Friendship. But, the unfortunate thing here is that the conservativeness is part of the human system much as the heart and the brain. Each and everone of us is conservative in our own way; the difference here being that the levels of expression vary.

All things said and done, one wonders as to how people who tend to be confident live in such societies. I guess you live for the moment, and that you have a hands off approach to many trivial things that happen around. The answer to the heading might never be found, because it involves the complexity of predominantly heart and mind. Once people start to think from their mind, will things in closed societies be easy, but till then, it will always be difficult.